Surrounding Yourself With The Right People
Just over a year ago, Devon and I got married on a beautiful winter day in Tel Aviv, Israel. The weather was wonderful, and we felt like a million bucks throughout the day. I remember how relaxed we were and how that allowed us to enjoy ourselves and soak everything in as the day went by. Nothing (literally nothing) bothered us that day whatsoever. While there are a lot of factors as to why everything went smoothly, the number one reason was that we knew that we were in good hands. That feeling of trust gave us the ability to let loose and take it all in. You know that feeling you get as soon as the roller coaster you are on passes the first and biggest drop? That is the closest I can get you.
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Carefully choosing the people you surround yourself with on your wedding day will have a direct affect on how you enjoy your biggest day.
Over the last few years I’ve seen many blog posts by very talented wedding professionals on the subject. “What should you look for in your wedding vendor?” type articles. Lots were and still are very descriptive and specific to that vendor’s profession, and very much relevant. While a professional advice is extremely helpful, I believe that there is a lot more to it.
So you are looking for a wedding photographer…. Yes. They need to be good… (duh)… They need to deliver the photos in a timely manner…. Yes, obviously. Do we not already know that? With the amount of reviews, articles, and horror stories available online, I am not even going to bother touching these points. Just because someone takes great photographs and has 1 billion followers on Instagram, it doesn't mean they are nessisarily the friendliest, or most caring people around. And that is some serious food for thought.
Last year I worked with a very talented wedding planner named Jennifer Maxwell of The Wedding Coach at Jill & Eric's Wedding. Working with her was so seamless it almost seemed unreal. So instead of giving you my perspective, I thought it would be interesting for you to hear someone else’s opinion for once! I asked Jennifer to write a little bit about her business and what makes her different than other planners:
“There are a few key things that will have your day run as smoothly as possible, and the right vendors are a huge part of that. Personality is one aspect. Do you like them? Do you communicate well? Do they ‘get’ you? Are they similar to you or opposite? Either can work here depending on the kind of service you need."
"If you are irritated in any way by a potential vendor, don’t hire them. Especially if you’ll be spending a lot of time with them on your wedding day. Think photographers. Do you know what your face will look like in every photo that irritating photographer takes of you that day? Yah… that. Forever.
So choose someone who makes you feel comfortable - whether it’s a soothing personality, or an upbeat and fun personality, or someone who makes you feel like they’ve got you covered no matter what."
"Being Service Oriented is another huge asset. No matter what happens on the day, if your planner is continually in ‘service’ mode, you and your guests will feel like they are being taken care of. I always say that a planner needs to have white collar professionalism with a blue collar work ethic. Even if it’s ‘not our job’, it’s always ‘our job’. We can’t be afraid to get our hands dirty, but we usually try to look as graceful as possible doing it. And maybe even in heels too!"
"Being service oriented also means that we do our best to assist other vendors - not annoy them. Every vendor hired is a pro at what they do, and don’t typically need someone telling them what to do. I would never dream of telling a chef how to cook at meal, or a photographer if the lighting is right. They know what they’re doing, so a good planner knows how to manage the things they are hired to do, which is keep the flow and put out fires (sometimes literally - yes really!) - not hound other professionals whom were also hired to contribute their skill and talents toward such an important day."
I was stoked to see how much in common Jennifer and I had in terms of our approach to our jobs as wedding vendors. Does it surprise me now that Jill & Eric's wedding day went by so smoothly? Not at all. In fact, the shot above took at least 20 minutes to execute and Jennifer was a huge factor in making it happen!
So do yourself a solid and invest some serious thought in who you want to spend your wedding day with. I promise the extra work that goes into that will be worth it!
Huge thanks to Jennifer Maxwell of The Wedding Coach for sharing her insight and experience! You should also know that she wears a shiny "Wedding Planner" badge on her dress during wedding days. It doesn't get better than that!